Reading is a solitary sport, but it doesn’t have to be. For
years, I drifted through novels, swooning, gushing, ranting, laughing and had
no one to share my feelings with… until book club. While teaching English at a
local high school, I met two, fellow voracious readers and ELA teachers,
Elizabeth and Jen, who shared my taste in books… which is to say anything
well-written except westerns and extremely technical sci-fi.
We gabbed about our latest discoveries and recommended each
other’s next reads. Eventually, we discovered we were all reading the same book
one week and Elizabeth invited us to stop by her house on a weekend night to
chat about the book, drink wine and sample cheese. We settled on a Friday night
and enjoyed the evening so well we planned another the following month. Whoever
hosted would chose the book.
Since we trusted each other’s tastes, we knew we’d be in for
another great book and a fun night ahead. I believe our second book was THE RED
TENT by Anita Diamant and since then we’ve read everything from thrillers like
Gone Girl to poignant memoirs like Glass Castles. We seem to enjoy literary
fiction that focuses on women, but we equally enjoy discussing hard-hitting,
masculine epics like Cormac McCarthy’s The Road. Anything that makes us think,
analyze, question and feel… we’re there.
Before long we added four more members: my sister Cathy, a
school psychologist, my sister-in-law Joanne, a fellow romance author like me,
and two close friends, Elaine and Michelle who are English and Journalism
professors at our local university respectively. We each bring a unique
perspective to our book discussions and never have a dull moment.
Joanne came up with our official book club name: Friday
Night Book Club, and began a yahoo group for us that’s kept track of all of the
books we’ve read over the past ten years. It’s impressive to look at and
consider the passage of time. But deeper than that, are the changes we’ve seen
in each other, supporting someone going through a divorce, losing a job, health
scares, and wildly celebrating when someone got married, pregnant, a promotion,
a new home. Through it all, Friday Night Book Club has been not only a
celebration of books, but a celebration of friendship and sisterhood.
I’m as fascinated to hear how everyone’s kids are doing as I
am to chat about the surprise twist at the end of our current read. It’s just
as riveting to hear how Michelle is handling her switch from Public Relations
Director to Professor of Journalism, how Elaine’s search for an agent is going,
what plans are being made for Cathy’s autistic daughter who graduates high
school this spring, if Jen thinks her current boyfriend will give up his “paleo”
diet in time to have cake on her birthday, whether Joanne’s new house flipping
project will finally get the plumbing fixed and if Elizabeth won her union
election bid.
Those topics will shuffle again next month, just as our book
selection will. We’ve travelled a fictional as well as a non-fiction journey
together, coming-of-age, adult-style, through the years. I highly recommend
forming a book club if you don’t already belong to one. More than the wonderful
food, (you’ll see the Swedish meatballs and magic bars I served this weekend),
and the terrific books, you’ll gain a close circle of friends bound by a love
of reading and, eventually, a love of one another. Are you in a book club? What
books are you reading? Let’s share! I’m reading Jojo Moyes’ ONE PLUS ONE and
loving it J
I love this, and I love your club. I've always been surprised (and, yeah, a little hurt) that no one has ever asked me to join a reading group. I've also been busy enough to not try to start one on my own. Maybe I'll think about it again now.
ReplyDeleteLiz, we can Skype you in and make you our official long-distance member! The more the merrier :) But I'm glad it got you thinking about joining or forming a club. It's amazing how quickly, once you start asking, other women are eager to join up. They'd be lucky to be in a club with you!
DeleteSounds like fun!
ReplyDeleteWe laugh so much some nights, Tara, my cheeks hurt the next day! Always a good time :)
DeleteI have a friend, formerly a writer, who has been in her book club for 10 years. She loves it. I'm such an eclectic reader that I think it would be hard for me. And I slack off reading when I'm starting to write a new book, or when I'm working on proposals. I just finished the February Heartwarmings which were all excellent (ha-I didn't have to read mine) and Rachel Hauck's How To Catch a Prince. I can recommend it. Also my sister and I are reading Sheila Connolly's mystery series set in Ireland (Cork) where my family came from. Those are good. My sister liked her writing so well she's now read Sheila's apple orchard series and museum books. That's how writers grab new readers. Karen, great post. I'm beginning the first book in a trilogy I recently sold to the American line, so my reading will be spotty for a while.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your American trilogy, Roz.
DeleteCongratulations on your American trilogy, Roz! We'll add that, and your other great recommendations to the list. We love Irish writers and have been Tana French- The Dublin Murder Squad- series fans :)
DeleteOver the years, I've been invited to discuss my own titles at lots of book clubs, but like you, Liz, I've never been invited to join one. Maybe people think because we write, we'd turn into crazy literature professor types, second-guessing all their opinions? WE WOULDN'T, Y'ALL! WE PROMISE!
ReplyDeleteLove the description of your club, Karen! And those magic bars look mighty tasty, too! :-)
Thanks, Loree! They were too good. I gained another three pounds before I made myself throw them out. Sheesh. Still. All is fair in food and book club :) I hope you do join a group. You are exactly the best kind of member because you would provide those great insights.
DeleteOver the years, I've been invited to discuss my own titles at lots of book clubs, but like you, Liz, I've never been invited to join one. Maybe people think because we write, we'd turn into crazy literature professor types, second-guessing all their opinions? WE WOULDN'T, Y'ALL! WE PROMISE!
ReplyDeleteLove the description of your club, Karen! And those magic bars look mighty tasty, too! :-)
I want to be in your book club, Karen. It sounds like great fun! I'm currently re-reading Still Alice. I read it early last year, but I wanted to read it again before I see the movie.
ReplyDeleteAw! I wish you could be in the club, Jill. I bet you could form a fabulous one. I haven't read Still Alice, but I downloaded a sample to my Kindle which is how I hold books I plan to purchase once I finish the ones I'm currently reading (usually that's 2-3 at a time unless it's Jojo Moyes and then I'm consumed!)
DeleteYour book club sound like so much fun! That's the way book clubs should be. I am filled with envy.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Kristine :) Those ladies are like sisters to me and the best of friends. We could read the dictionary and we'd still make it a fun night- lol.
DeleteLove your book club, Karen. I saw the Jane Austen Book Club again - love that movie. I belonged to a Mystery Book Club for a while but some of the books they read contained such God-awful stuff. (Nothing against them. They'd been together a long time and had read so much already.) Anyway - I'm a woosy reader. I love romance in all its sub genres, and have no desire to read about tragedy, horrible loss, and other significant stuff. But getting together with other women to discuss what you have in common - or what you don't - is certainly good for the soul. And I love the notion of cookies and Swedish meatballs!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Muriel :) Cookies, Swedish meatballs, literature and friendship... a powerful combination! I can't help liking the darker reads as much as the light, but the good thing in our club is that we read whatever the host chooses and it's exposed us all to books outside of what we might have picked for ourselves. Sometimes the selections don't work for me- so I kind of skim enough to be part of the chat- but for the most part, it's really worked out :)
DeleteI'm with Kristine and several others--envious of your book club, Karen. I do have a great group of writer/friends here. Our writer meetings tend to range from actual writing topics to whatever else is going on in our lives. Send some of those meatballs and cookies my way! Yum.
ReplyDeleteMeatballs and cookies, in-coming, Leigh!! lol. I have a YA writers group that's wonderful and agree that they are great groups to join, too. Unfortunately, living so far north, I don't have any other romance writers except my sister-in-law Joanne whom I speak to at least 2-3 times a week!
DeleteKaren, I love how your book club developed naturally and into a group of friends or 'kindred spirits'. I'm not part of a book club, but this post is making me want to be! I'd want there to be that sense of friendship in it too :).
ReplyDeleteRula, I couldn't encourage you do form one more! None of us were necessarily looking for, or felt we needed, close friendships as we were all (and still are) in the middle of work and raising a family and running households... yet setting aside that sacred time that belonged to no one but us actually gave us more energy for the rest of our lives and friendships and sisters that will be there for a long long time.
DeleteYour book club sounds great, Karen! We have a monthly book club that meets at noon at the local library. We all bring our lunch and discuss the latest books we've read and enjoyed.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great place for a book club, Britney! And you also get to hear about what other great books the members are reading and recommending. What a terrific way to spend lunch together :)
DeleteI'm with Liz, I'd love to be in a book club. I've been invited, but I can just see me trying to squeeze in time.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean, Pam! At first, I wasn't sure but oddly enough having that one sacred night where it isn't about work or family energizes me when I go back to my regular world. It's so relaxing and fun and if you have time to squeeze it in, I couldn't recommend it more :)
DeleteI've never belonged to a book club, although I've spoken to several. If I could find one like Karen's I'd join one.
ReplyDeleteJoin us, Patricia :) You could Skype in... And you could form one, too, if you have a couple of friends that tend to read the same things you do. And how lovely to have spoken to some. I spoke to a local group in upstate New York but it was their first Harlequin romance and most expected a bodice ripper instead of a heartwarmer... sigh... still, they were very gracious :)
DeleteI'm sorry I missed the original day of this post because I enjoyed reading it so much. I tried to start a book club but it didn't really get off to an encouraging start. Two of the members almost immediately were confronted with serious health issues involving themselves and close family members. Another would-be member moved away. But, maybe when things settle down (do things ever really settle down?), I'll get more serious about starting one. The trouble might be me. I have such a long list of books I'd like to read that I wonder if I'll want to read someone else's suggestions. I can be selfish when it comes to books and reading. And for some reason I'm a sucker for reading authors' books when asked. I like to help them out with reviews. I truly love doing that. See....I'm all over the place. But, I was inspired by your book club Karen. ( :
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