One of my favorite movies is "You've Got Mail" with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks. At one point, Meg Ryan's character asks why is it that instead of something in a book reminding her of life that it's the other way around. So much of what she sees reminds her of a book.
I love that line. Because I often find myself comparing things that happen to a book I've read. Not that that's hard to do since I read about two to three books a week. Sometimes I even wish I could live in a book. Or at least that story world.
Which reminds me of another favorite movie, "Sleepless in Seattle". Rosie O'Donnell's character tells Meg Ryan's character that she doesn't want to be in love. She wants to be in love in a movie.
Wouldn't we all want to fall in love in a movie or romance novel? Things are so heightened and passionate. They're larger than life. And we can plan on our happy ending coming, even if we have to go through the dark moment first.
I think part of the reason the relationships on "The Bachelor" don't last much beyond the show is because the reality can't compete with the over the top dates, bigger than life vacations and fantasy suites. There's a big difference between fighting over the bills and travelling to Costa Rica. But we the viewers continue to tune in to the show because we want to believe the fantasy. We want to believe that a man can find true love on television. The show hasn't been on seventeen seasons for no reason.
So do we hold on to the fantasy of art or the reality of life? Can't we have both? Sometimes we need one more than the other. I know that when life gets too stressful, I tend to read more romance novels. When life becomes predictable, I read mysteries. I let my life influence my art.
And isn't that what a great life should do?