I started thinking about this subject the other day when it came to me that while I used to always sat change meant growth and I looked forward to ne ideas and new things, now I more like my life to remain status quo. I decided it must be age. But I don't want to get so set in my ways that other people see me as difficult. I remember working with some people who didn't want anyone touching a single things on their desks which they had arranged exactly as they liked it. So, I did some side research on the subject of change.
In a copy of Scientific American, Nikolas Westerhoff says personalities can continue to change in middle and old age, but openness to new experiences gradually decline to around age 60 when luckily "some" people become more open again. Hey, there's hope for me digging out of my rut.
In Psychology Today, Sherrie Bourg Carter, Psy D, who wrote "high Octane Women" has an article about change being hard, but the article tells why people should keep trying. She's really talking about making behavioral changes. But she does indicate you should always have a Plan B handy if Plan A goes awry.
What got me thinking about this whole subject was when I had to get a new computer tower. It sounds simple, but really caused me great stress. First the cables from the old tower didn't match the spots to connect with the new one. It took me 2 trips back to the store. Then the new system didn't come with Outlook Express, so I had to buy a new Microsoft program that included a new, updated version of Word along with it. Office 2010 was quite different than Office 2013, including Word. I liked the old version, and was comfortable with it. Also Windows 8 comes with tiles that are supposed to go with a touch screen which I didn't buy. Lastly the new system wouldn't talk to my high speed black and white printer that I loved. I spent weeks searching for a new printer. I finally did get one, but still like the old one better.
In the middle of this the place where we've always held our RWA meetings closed. Our next meeting this Saturday has to be at a new place. We only just found one. I liked the old place. I knew how to get there and how long to allow. I think you may be seeing a bit of why I am resisting change.
Back to what Ms. Bourg Carter suggests to help relieve stress attached to change:
The change needs to be self-motivated
Make sure you think positively instead of out of regret
Set specific goals, but limit them to a manageable number
Develop a realistic plan to accomplish the change
Spend time with other people who accept change easily
And you need patience and persistence. I decided that's where I'm falling down in this arena of acceptance. I'm impatient and too ready to throw up my hands and give up totally. Knowing this, I'm making progress learning the new functions of my computer programs. It makes a difference if you don't have a choice to go back to the old way. When it comes to accepting a new meeting place, I'll have to keep an open mind. I've decided to tell myself we all need to shake up our lives to not fall into a rut. I want to get back to being the person who thought change was good. How do you accept change in your life?