This ‘N That About New Year’s Resolutions
What masochistic person do you think first came up with the notion of starting a new year with resolutions? Most of us set them. Many of our goals are too lofty or unrealistic, so we promptly break them and then feel guilty.
Instead of making a list, maybe a person would be better served to choose just one thing. It could be one idea that might cover more than one area in your life, such as “I resolve to get motivated”.
That may mean you hope to eat better. Or maybe you’ll set and meet a page goal for 5 out of 7 days. Or perhaps you’ve fallen behind on regular exercise and you’ll find a way to motivate an exercise routine. Pick one. The people I know tend to make a long list, but having too long a list tends to make us frustrated, because it’s difficult to alter or change habits we’ve indulged in for at least the past year, if not longer.
To have a really happy new year a person needs to distress. One of my women’s health magazines for January has a section on life lesson tips from some of our top women athletes who’ll compete in the Olympics. I know, I know, you’re going to say they look fabulous and make accomplishments look so easy. In general they work hard and most experience setbacks like we all do. I won’t name which athlete said what, but rather I’ll note a variety of comments I think could be adapted by any of us. Beginning with: Setbacks make you appreciate success even more. Take one day at a time. Everyone has something about themselves that makes them feel self-conscious, but everyone also has a hundred more things to be proud of. When you get too comfortable always doing one routine you get stagnant and stuck—life is about learning to become the best version of yourself. Focus on what is in front of you and even break that down into small steps. Stumbling blocks are often the best learning opportunities. Love what you do, because things aren’t always going to go the way you want.
Find a mantra that matters to you. Some that were listed: Stay in the moment. Dare to be… Just have fun with it. Don’t take anything for granted.
I remember someone’s logo is: Just do it! Is that Nike? It’s a worthy motto for writers, too.
Take time for yourself and recharge. A person can’t be all work and no play. Or you can’t be rigid about a diet and never allow yourself a treat. Build “me time” in your work schedule and don’t feel guilty about needing time to spend with family and friends. Down time allows you to go back to work with a new perspective.
I loved it that one of the ski jumpers said: “I love grabbing a good book and going to my local café for a latte.” I smiled at that, because it’s something I like to do. When we’re in the middle of writing to deadline do we ever stop to think that what we’re writing may be the destressor in another person’s hectic life? A snowboarder and four-time medalist said: “Lounging around and reading is a good destressor.”
So, hey, while we’re not world-class athletes, what we do is valuable. And all of us have a lot in common. Daily grind is daily grind. Outside stressors can and do weigh us down at times and can interrupt our course. Rather than make a long list of New Year’s resolutions maybe just acknowledge that you’re amazing in multiple areas of your busy lives. And face each day knowing you have in you exactly what it takes to succeed.