A friend of mine is going through something we have all gone through: the search for the One. That person who will complete your life and fill it with the love you want and need. The problem is that he's dating a lot but not finding the right One.
Sure, this person fulfills some of his list of what he wants in a partner. And that one ticks off more items on that list. But he can't seem to find the One that meets all his requirements. What is he going to do?
On the advice of another mutual friend, he made a list of everything he wants in a mate. Nothing was too big or too small for the list. Then he started going through the list and eliminating items until he came up with seven things he can't live without. Things like have a job, be spiritually compatible, being honest and truthful, etc.
Now, if he meets someone online or in person, they need to meet all seven requirements or he moves on to the next one.
Similarly, I'm currently in the process of looking for a house. Using the same advice, I came up with the seven things I can't live without. It makes the house search a lot easier when I can eliminate places that don't meet what I need. I won't be wasting time looking at something I know I won't like, much less love.
And I'll follow this advice when it comes time for me to meet another man. I'll take the time to choose those seven things he must possess. Otherwise, I'll move on to the next one.
Does that mean we're being picky? Maybe. Or maybe it means we have higher standards to finding what we need.
What would be on your list of seven things you can't live without in your partner? Comment below, and I'll choose one lucky reader to receive a copy of my upcoming book, "Risk of Falling" when it releases in August.