Thursday, July 23, 2015

Friendship (Tara Taylor Quinn)


Friendship is a funny thing.  It happens, in its most perfect form, without us being aware.  And then, suddenly, there it is, in our lives, blessing our lives, appearing out of nowhere to save us from…desolation.

Years ago I was in a position to serve an organization.  I gave my all to it.  Put in the many many hours of unpaid work.  I listened.  I stepped outside myself and made decisions based on the good of the many.  It was a life changing experience for me in many ways.  It gave me insights into government and being responsible for the needs of diverse and vocal people.  It crucified me.

And it gave me my closest friend.  We argued when I first met her.  She had an opinion.  Delivered it strongly.  She was almost twenty years my senior, a decorated journalist and a USA Today bestselling author.  I was published.  Hadn’t hit USA Today yet.  Had written less than half the number of books she had.  And I told her she was wrong.  Because I’d seen a situation and I had to speak my truth.

I didn’t know it at the time, but she listened to what I said.  Thank God I was right.  But the most important thing about the incident was that I spoke from the heart.  And she had the heart to hear my message.

Years passed.  Things happened.  And I was in an untenable position.  I felt completely and utterly alone.  And suddenly, there was this…friend.  At a time when I thought myself physically alone, as well as cast adrift from all that mattered to me, at a time when I was being persecuted, there she was.  Finding me huddled in private, thinking myself alone with my grief.  She found me.  Held on to me. 

Because that’s what friendship does.  A lot is happening in my life this month.  As I write this, my 70th book is released.  I’m on the Publisher’s Weekly Bestseller list for the fifth week in a row.  Just hit the USA Today bestseller list again.  I’m up for a coveted RITA award and have many galas and fancy parties to attend in New York.  And what I am looking forward to the most…I’m going to be spending a few days with my friend.  I cannot wait to see her.  To look into her eyes.  To walk beside her.  Hear her voice.  Because this is what life is about.  This is what matters most.

And this is the message I hope you get from Once Upon A Friendship.  Cherish your friends.  Tend to them.  Let the little things go.  Work through the big ones.  Because they are the ones who will always be there to catch you when you fall.  To hold you up.  And help put you back together again.
As you read this I am in New York City with my closest friend.  We are spending every minute we can together, talking non-stop and still not saying everything there is to say.  I live for these moments!

11 comments:

  1. A lovely post. Have a great time in NYC.

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  2. Liz is right...this tribute to your enduring friendship really IS lovely! The sages are right: If we find just one friendship like that in our lifetime, we can count ourselves blessed. Hope you'll have plenty of talk-together time in NYC! :-)

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  3. Beautifully written, Tara.

    It's a pleasure and a privilege to have the opportunity to get to know you a little.

    Enjoy your time with your friend!

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  4. So true about enduring friendships that go through hard times and good. Great photo of you and Pat.

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  5. Friendship is such a gift. I'm fortunate to have two such friends in my life and thank God for that every day. And how good that the two of you found friendship out of initial discord, and that it's uplifted you. Have a wonderful time on your visit with her, enjoying all of RWA. Congratulations on the best seller lists - I'm so jealous! - and break a leg for the RITA!

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  6. Congratulations on the release of your 70th book, for being on the USA Today Bestseller list and for your RITA nomination!! Incredible accolades and achievements :) Mostly, congratulations for having the greatest thing of all- true and lifelong friendship. Nothing in life brings us more joy and happiness than the love we've shared with others.

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  7. I loved this post, Tara. One of my favorite sayings it, "Friends are the family you get to pick." I treasure my friendships. Congratulations on your 70th book, that's amazing! I can't wait to read, Once Upon a Friendship.

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  8. How wonderful to have such a friend. Enjoy.
    Marion

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  9. Good friends are indeed a gift that should not be taken for granted. I am especially grateful for my dear friends.
    Congratulations on the 70th book. I love the cover of Once Upon a Friendship. ( :

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  10. Good friends are hard to come by, and I'm so glad you have yours. Congratulations on all your accomplishments! Wishing the best for you.

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  11. Tara, I hope you are making so many memories right now that will see you through the next 70 books. When it all comes together in the end, your accomplishments and accolades will be nice and you'll be proud of them, but what you will cherish is the love your friends and your family have for you. I have had just such a friend and she still is. She was my first editor ever and she is there in NYC, my shining lovely gift, with her hands out and her heart open. THAT is what life is all about. Congratulations on having this time with your friend. You deserve the best.

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