There are several misconceptions about romance authors. Besides the rampant rumors about us penning bodice-ripping novels whilst wearing satin pajamas and feather boas (okay- the PJ thing might be true if we substitute flannel for satin), the other false impression is that we somehow demean women or marginalize them in our stories.
Hello? The protagonists in all of our stories are women. Front and center. Spotlight on. And they are strong, determined, and fighters who strive for something they strongly believe in. In the case of romance, most times that is love. It’s a fact that two thirds of all wage earners in the world are women yet we only claim one tenth of its wealth. There is much to be done on that front.
However, I don’t subscribe to the money = power philosophy. Maybe because I’ve never had much? Probably… still, to me, love is the most powerful force in the universe and women have long known that truth and pursued it. Love keeps families and friends together. Love helps us get through the most trying times. Love motivates us to work harder and be a better person for those in our lives. Love makes us a kinder and more caring society.
When my daughter was very young, I told her that the only thing I hoped she’d be when she grew up was a kind person. Now, some might think that’s weak. Maybe I should have told her that I expected her to become CEO of a big company or a doctor or lawyer… but to me, kindness is more powerful than any title or position. She starts her second year of college this week, not because I forced her, but for the love of learning and because, as she said, she wants a career that will allow her to make a positive difference in the world. Whether that earns her money and prestige is irrelevant. Most fulfilling of all, is the chance to help others. I couldn’t be prouder.
A force capable of creating a better world isn’t green; it’s red (or pink :). Love alone is the most powerful factor in humanity and my hat is off to all women who spread it through their words and deeds, whether you’re an author, a mother, a sister, daughter or friend. Maybe we should consider equality in another way. Perhaps men need to become equals to women in our ability to nurture, love and connect. They’ve definitely come a long way baby, but they have a way to go to catch up to us :) What’s the most loving thing you’ve ever done or someone has done for you that's made a powerful difference? And yes, please include men in your comments because we love them and greatly appreciate all the loving things they do!