I have been contemplating this blog for quite some time. I don’t mean for it to be depressing. The point I’m going to make is actually life affirming.
Three years ago I became a widow. I had been married thirty-five years, so the loss was profound and difficult. Over those thirty-five years, I can’t tell you how many times I summoned my husband with nit picky jobs that I should have been able to handle myself.
“Bud, the lightbulb needs changed.”
“Bud, there’s a spider in the bathtub.”
“Bud, the dog needs to go out.”
Suddenly, there was no one to call. I was on my own and lonely. So what are just a few things I’ve learned to do myself? They may not seem momentous to many of you – maybe you have always been the kind of woman to “bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan” but for me, this has been a learning curve.
1. I can fix the disposal as long as I can find the hex wrench.
2. I can change the filter in the refrigerator.
3. I can hook up all those dang wires and cables to the TV and the cable outlet.
4. I can drive two days and one thousand miles by with only my pup and my radio for company.
5. I can have my car serviced without feeling I’ve been taken advantage of. For that matter, I can buy a new car and get a good deal.
6. I can go in the tool department of any big box store, buy what I need and not feel like an idiot.
7. I can use a footstool or even a ladder to reach high places.
8. I can put up and take down the Christmas tree by myself.
I will never stop missing “Bud.” But I will survive. I have friends, and I have my writing to ground me and give purpose to my days. And each time I learn something new, I feel a sense of accomplishment. If any of you have lost your “go to” guy, I know… it’s hard, but you are better, you are stronger, you are much more clever than you ever thought you were.
What has made you feel a sense of pride in yourself today?
By the way, I feel a real sense of pride in my latest Harlequin Heartwarming, Book three of the Daughters of Dancing Falls, RESCUED BY MR. WRONG. This book releases in one week, February 1. I hope you'll give it a try. And maybe read them all!