As Patricia Johns and I were emailing back and forth to come up with a blog post, she said, "Why don't we do a Would you rather post." It sounded like a great idea to me. So here we go.
Would you rather go through drama and misery to be with a man who makes your heart flutter, or have a calm and smooth path to a man who is decent and good?
In my fiction, I thoroughly enjoy drama and hardship--and I write it with relish! In real life, though, I like a very bland existence! So if it were just about the drama, I'd much prefer to avoid it. I value calm.
But since the choice is between a man who makes my heart race or someone who (I'm assuming) is very decent but doesn't really excite me, I'm going to have to grudgingly accept some drama to get the man who really makes my heart sing. A lifetime together is a long time to go without a true, deep, toe-curling passion... But only if that drama is going to stop once we're together!
If the drama and misery would continue, passion or not, then I'll take the good and decent man and spice things up myself.
(Confession: In my real life, I went through a fair amount of drama and misery to marry my husband, and he was worth it. But I'm still a little resentful of the drama it took to get us together! LOL!)
I'm not sure I'm the right person to answer this question...since I've been dating the same guy for almost nineteen years and we haven't gotten married yet. And probably never will. 😏
But here goes: I don't like drama. At.All. Even though like Patricia, I make it really hard for my characters to get together, for myself I'd much prefer the steady, family loving, easy-going guy every time.
So how about you? Which do you prefer?