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Resolutions? Do you make them? Do you break them? Can you take them or leave them?
I never made them as a child--well, as an angsty teen--when all my friends would list theirs. I knew myself. Anything I resolved would become a task. In my early adulthood, I began to think I was missing out on an opportunity because I didn't look upon the new year as a time to start over, so I'd give it a shot.
The new year just isn't a start-over to me.
I finally learned to make the one resolution I can manage to keep because I work at it every day. It sounds kind of beauty-pageanty and embarrassing, but I try to do no harm. I have an ugly temper and a sarcastic mind, but I don't use them in anger. I think twice before I say whatever pops into my head. Most of the time. You know how something sounds funny in your mind, but then once it's out there in the air--not so much? At least these days, it's usually some nerdy allusion that makes me feel like a big, old sore thumb, but I don't mind the "what are you talking about?" look. It's the hurt face that kills me.
My all-time resolution has become more easy to keep when social media makes people so generous with their anger and the right to rant. I find all the bad feeling overwhelming. Frustrating moments that are part of just living suddenly become a soapbox for normal people who wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings in person. I can't do that--probably because I learned a few lessons from the shame of wielding that sarcastic temper. I don't feel smarter or better when I blurt out the perfect response. I just feel bad.
So, this year, I'm resolving the same old thing--not to hurt anyone, not to try forcing my opinion on top of anyone else's, but to accept that people don't think like I do, and I like to know how other folks think. When I'm driving down the road, and I see other travelers chatting, I always wonder what's going on in their lives--what's happening today that feels just as vital as all my urgent matters.
Mind you, I also try not to post personal stuff, and this post feels pretty personal. I'm tempted to delete and start over, but I'm about to ask you what you're resolving this year, so I might as well leave my own feelings out in public.
What is something you'd like to make sure you do? Or something you don't want to do any more?
I'm wishing you all the new year that makes you most happy.