by Liz Flaherty
It is during
this last little piece of the year that I choose my word for the year to come.
I don’t know when this little ritual started, but it replaced New Year’s
resolutions for me and that was a good thing--it cut way back on my failure rate. I don’t even know all the words I’ve used. I know Joy was one, because it was and remains my favorite word. Magic was another. In 2015, it has been Expand which has been good not only for
me but for my pastor who had such a good time with it.
This morning
I went back and looked at my plans for that word. They were as follows:
1.
Expand my faith. No, I’m
not going to proselytize or otherwise hit anyone in the face with it, but I am
going to give it a bigger space.
2.
Expand my spirit. I’m a
Pollyanna. I’m a happy girl who can find the good in almost any situation. I’m
going to stop being embarrassed about that.
3.
Expand my vocabulary. I
just love words, don’t you, and I don’t know enough of them. The fact that
my...er...maturity is causing me to forget a lot of them necessitates me
latching onto more and using them in fun places when I—
4.
–expand my writing. I’m not sure how, yet, but
it needs to grow.
5.
Expand healthy diet and
exercise, because other habits have caused a great deal of expansion in areas I
don’t care to discuss.
6.
Expand the width of my
mind. It’s so easy for it to narrow up, to think experience always equals
rectitude, to close against things that are new or uncomfortable.
7.
Expand my horizons. I
want to go somewhere I haven’t been, see things I haven’t seen.
Globally, 2015 has been a time of tumult and terror and immeasurable pain
that hasn’t stopped yet. Politically, it seems to have been year of greed and
lies and meanness—I think some of “them” could do with my list. Personally,
it’s been...wow, a great year. Not that I was completely successful in my quest
with my word (see #5), but for the most part...yeah, I’m happy.
So what now?
What word can I attach to in 2016 that might make me kinder, more productive,
more giving? Might make me drop back some on the use of the words “I” and “me.”
(I use them so often I sometimes start sentences with “You know it’s all about
me...” Embarrassing!)
And I have
it. One of my very favorite quotes is from A. A. Milne:
“What day is it?" asked Winnie
the Pooh
"It's today," squeaked Piglet
"My favorite day," said Pooh.
"It's today," squeaked Piglet
"My favorite day," said Pooh.
My word for
2016 is Today. I can’t do a single
thing about tomorrow, and it’s way too late for yesterday, but for Today, I’ll
do what I can.
Happy
Heartwarming New Year to you. Do you make resolutions or have intentions? Or do
you have a word for the year, too? If you feel like sharing, we’d love to hear
it.
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Isn't this lineup a great way to start the new year. If you don't have yours yet, don't wait. If you find them in a Walmart near you, give us a shoutout--we are so excited!
Sounds a bit like a dose of Mindfulness to me, not that there's anything wrong with that. There's a lot to be said for being 'in the moment.' I'm sure it'll make us all more productive if we can do what we're 'supposed' to be doing, when we're supposed to be doing it. So yes, 'Today' works for me too.
ReplyDeleteI imagine I will have a year when "mindful" will be my word (I've given up on focus). My primary reason for choosing "today" was that I've wasted too many todays because of regrets over yesterdays and concerns over tomorrows. Thanks for coming by, Madeline!
Delete"Today" is a wonderful word Liz. This year I've chosen two words...because to have one you need to also need the other. My words are "boldly" and "compassion". As you said, the world has seen so much pain and unrest this year, and I see more coming. So this year I hope to boldly stand for what I believe, attempt, or what ever comes along....but do it with compassion and help others as much as possible along the way. It's amazing how much just a kind word or simple action can bring encouragement to someones journey. Hope you have a wonderful New Year!
ReplyDeleteSame to you, Brenda. I think that's a great word combination and I have no doubt you'll pull it off.
DeleteGreat post, Liz! I have never made a New Year's resolution, but I love your idea of a word (to guide behavior, as I see it) for the year. I might just have to steal your word! :-D
ReplyDeleteThank you for the shout out for our January releases!
I'm not sure, but I think I initially borrowed--okay, stole--the idea from Holly Jacobs. It just works so well for me, whereas I bombed at every resolution I ever made!
DeleteI am so excited about the Heartwarmings being in stores--and January's books are a great lineup to start with! I can't wait to hear from people who've found them.
love this post, Liz! Thanks for sharing. I'm still coming up with my word...
ReplyDeleteThanks for coming by, Kristi. I was on it this year! :-)
DeleteExcellent post! In 2015, I set "Onward" as my word. I like the idea of creating plans for the word...something I will do more of in the future. As for 2016, I'm still tossing several words up in the air. Thanks Liz! :)
ReplyDeleteOh, excellent word! Let me know what you use for 2016.
DeleteI enjoyed your post, Liz! The word that comes to mind for me is "intrepid." Fear and doubt have dogged me my entire life, it seems. Time to let all of that go and yes, live in the moment, acting rather than reacting. Happy New Year to you and yours!
ReplyDeleteOh, Ashantay, that's a great word. I hope I use "fearless" one day not because I think I'll master it, but to remind myself that fear has nothing to offer to life.
DeleteToday is a good one for keeping you in the "now." According to Facebook, my word for 2016 is "Innovation," which works for me! Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteYay, Cheryl! Happy New Year to you, too.
DeleteLove the idea of a "word" resolution. And "today" is wonderful.
ReplyDeleteThank you! Happy New Year!
DeleteI'm printing out your list and using it too. We are soooo much alike.
ReplyDeleteWe are, aren't we? And I'm glad for that!
DeleteSo identify with your word for this year. I'm so bad to project fear into the future even though I'm like you--a pollyanna. I see the glass as half-full and filling. I've been choosing a word for the year for a while now. One year it was humility. That was a hard one for me. After writing 3 books and a novella this year, my word for 2016 is Rest. And I'm going to take a cue from you and make a list of how I'll embrace that word.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard to know when you need that one, isn't it? Rest well, Pat!
DeleteI don't like to do resolutions either, it seems like you doom them to failure. I think my word for 2016 will be mindful. I will try to be mindful to my own needs as well as the needs of others. We'll see how it goes.
ReplyDeleteMadeline mentioned that one, too. I think it's a great word!
DeleteGreat post, Liz! I don't have a word yet--I'm working on it. Working on a lot of things actually, so hold a good thought, okay? Happy New Year, my friend!
ReplyDeleteTo you, too!
DeleteSo enjoyed this, Liz. I have sometimes made resolutions, mostly about losing weight and eating better---all of which seem to fall by the wayside within half a year. I like your idea or Holly's of setting one word for the year. Mine will be "stretch". As in body, mind and soul. Happy New Year.
ReplyDeleteI hope that works as well for you as "expand" did for me--it was the first time I STAYed conscious of the word.
DeleteLove your idea, Liz. I never make resolutions, but a one word 'focus' is an excellent way to guide us through the year. Now I have to come up with that word! Breathe or enjoy are my top picks.
ReplyDeleteExcellent ones!
DeleteI really enjoyed this post, Liz. I like resolutions. There, I said it. Because even if I don't completely fulfill them in the manner I'd like, I always feel like I've made progress. Of course, I don't choose ones that I know are out of my reach (aka impossible) like losing an entire dress size or keeping my house clean. How have I never heard this word idea? I might have to explore that for this year!
ReplyDeleteIt can work and I've never felt like a failure because of it--two good things for me. :-) Thanks, Carol!
DeleteMy favorite word is "audacity" but I have not lived up to that word in years. Sadly, life has a way of knocking us down and causing us to doubt ourselves. I want 2016 to be the year that I become more alive within myself so that I can accomplish my hearts goals.
ReplyDeleteGood thoughts, Jo-Ann!
DeleteI love this word for a year idea. I'm going to give thought to my word, and then apply it as you've shown us in expand. Thank you for the tip.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a successful word (that sounds silly, doesn't it?) Happy New Year!
DeleteI think I'm going to go with "LIVE". I've found myself getting so bogged down with 'stuff', locked inside, worrying about things I can't control. It's time I took a little "me" time, which will make all the rest of it easier to manage. Thank you for this idea! I'm going to make a sign right now and put "live" up on my mirror so I see it first thing in the morning. Happy New Year, Liz!
ReplyDeleteExcellent choice, Anna.
DeleteGreat post! I like your word! I don't know for sure, but I think I'll go with POWER. As in I have the power over me. My life. My thoughts. My career.
ReplyDeleteA good thing to remember--and remind yourself of! Hi, D!
DeleteGreat post, Liz! I'm not a resolution gal myself. Many years ago I began the one word tradition and it hasn't failed me yet.
ReplyDeleteYes--you're not setting yourself up to fail when it's just one word.
DeleteWhat a clever way to think about things
ReplyDeleteHi, Mel! (Waving...)
DeleteI like all of your resolutions, Liz. My main one, in the realm of writing, is to write more--and write first before I tackle anything else in the morning.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to do that, to write BEFORE Facebook and email, but I don't do it. It might be something I work on. :-)
DeleteLiz - you're brilliant, as usual. I always make a resolution and often fail, but apparently I'm a lot less hard on myself than others because I keep doing it. My word is COMPASSION and I'm going to add it your word - COMPASSION TODAY! I like it! Sounds like action. I also love your plan for last year. It matches mine for this year. HAPPY NEW YEAR Everybody!
ReplyDeleteExcellent action, Muriel. :-)
DeleteWonderful post, Liz! I love your word but I guess I will go with three words - TAKE IT IN. I think too often I am so busy buzzing here and there, I forget to take it all in. I want to be able to enjoy the little moments :) Happy New Year to all our Heartwarming readers and writers!
ReplyDeleteThat works--goes along with some smelling the roses time, doesn't it?
DeleteNo, I don't make resolutions so I really appreciate a word for the year, and yours is perfect. I often tell people I have to take one day at a time, so the word "today" really resonates with me. I stay in the day and try not to think too far ahead about things. I'm going to embrace that word for 2016. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteAs for Heartwarming books in Wal Mart stores....hurray!! I will certainly post any sightings. I am so happy for all of you. ( :
We so appreciate you, Laurie--your support has warmed all our hearts.
DeleteOh, Liz, I so appreciate your wisdom! Thank you for sharing this piece with me. You help me see why I have chosen to comfort myself Today. :) And to comfort others today, too.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate yours, too, and thank you for the years of pleasure your writing has given.
Deleteyou are really doing a nice job keep it up.
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